(This is a longer version of a column published in the Manawatu Standard and Nelson Mail, February 22.)
My friend John Schnellenberg
died last week. For more than 13 years, we’d met almost every Friday for lunch.
We were both refugees from
Wellington. John and his wife Sonia had moved to Masterton after retiring. My
wife and I made the same move several months later.
We hadn’t known the
Schnellenbergs in Wellington, although I had worked for the same newspaper
company as Sonia, but we connected in Masterton because of a long-standing
friendship between John and my sister and brother-in-law.
They had got to know each
other through politics. John was by instinct a conservative, which drew him to
the National Party. But he was a liberal conservative, as is my brother-in-law,
and together they were active in a 1970s National Party faction – co-founded by
John – that did its best to resist the illiberal
impulses of the party’s then leader, Robert Muldoon.
I say John had retired by the
time we met, but that’s not entirely true. For much of his life he had worked
for Shell Oil, but he had also owned a bookshop and an early Apple computer dealership.
In retirement, he set up a one-man business consultancy. “I’m in commerce,” he
would say when people asked him what he did. It always struck me as a very John
thing to say.
I can’t recall how our Friday
lunch habit came about. It just sort of happened.
At first we spread our
patronage around. The True Blue Café, Food For Thought, Dish, The 10 O’Clock
Cookie Company, Taste and The Village Grinder all enjoyed our custom. Each café
catered to a subtly different demographic group, so we were exposed to a
cross-section of Masterton society.
As a former business owner, I
think John felt we owed it to the town to support as many places as possible.
But as time went by, we ended up alternating between Café Entice (prosperous farmers,
real estate agents, professional types) and Café Strada (a mixed clientele, but
with a few tattoos and the occasional workman’s high-vis vest).
In recent years we were
joined by another Wellington refugee, the playwright Joe Musaphia. Two Jews and
a Gentile.
I was very much the baby in
this trio, John and Joe both being in their early 80s. They had known each
other in Wellington through the Jewish community. John was descended from the Ashkenazi
Jews who settled in Eastern and Central Europe as part of the Jewish diaspora,
while Joe was from the Sephardic Jewish line that ended up in Spain and
Portugal. Different backgrounds, but united by a rich and proud culture
stretching back several millennia.
John was the more religiously
observant of the two and would always tut-tut disapprovingly when I sat down
with a slice of Cafe Strada’s excellent bacon and egg pie. Lightning would
strike me, he would warn. He never tired of his little joke, and I always
laughed. It was one of those lines that somehow got funnier the more predictable it became.
John was a gentleman and a charmer.
He was a small man whose eyes twinkled behind his glasses – one of the very few
people I know of whom that could be truthfully be said – and whose face almost
permanently wore a genial, knowing smile. I learned at his funeral that Jews
are enjoined to greet others with a pleasant countenance. John obviously took
that to heart.
He loved to laugh – his whole
body would convulse when I said something he found funny – and he loved to
talk. He enjoyed engaging with people to the extent that it could become
slightly exasperating.
He couldn’t place his lunch
order (invariably something sweet and not terribly nutritious) without making
small talk with the woman behind the counter, regardless of how many people
were waiting behind him, and our lunches were frequently interrupted by John’s
need to converse with whoever happened to be passing our table. Although a
relatively recent arrival in town (by Masterton standards, at least), he seemed
to know everyone.
He had a Jew’s interest in
business and closely monitored the town’s economic prosperity, alternating
between despondency and optimism depending on how many businesses were opening
or closing down. The amount of traffic on the main street was a recurring issue
of vital interest. Behind this, I suspect John was always thinking about what was
happening to Masterton property values.
He was never entirely
convinced he had made the right move by shifting to a country town, and not
just because he was missing out on the boom in Wellington house prices. There
was a part of John that remained firmly rooted in European urban culture, even
though he had known it only briefly in childhood. He could at times be
disdainful of what he perceived as provincial values and attitudes.
He also remained
unmistakeably Jewish. His oldest and closest friends were Jewish and he was
deeply engaged with the Jewish community. But while his Jewishness was central to his sense of identity, he considered himself first and foremost a New Zealander.
Nonetheless, he sometimes gave the
impression of remaining slightly mystified by New Zealand ways. In this respect
he was notably different from our lunch partner Joe, who still spoke with a faint
trace of an East London accent but had effortlessly absorbed the New Zealand way
of doing things – indeed, made his living writing plays about it.
Having once owned the Mister
Pickwick bookshop in Lower Hutt, John made a point of getting to know the
proprietors of the Masterton book outlets and would regularly report on how they
were doing. He was an avid reader himself, with a vast collection of books,
mostly non-fiction.
History and politics
fascinated him. He was a great admirer of Winston Churchill and must have read
– often several times – everything ever written by or about the British wartime
leader.
He acknowledged Churchill’s
flaws, but I think what ultimately counted to John was that Churchill, almost
alone at first, had stood up to Hitler. John had spent his early years in
Germany but escaped to New Zealand with his parents before the Holocaust with
the assistance of a British diplomat who knew his father. John’s grandparents
were not so fortunate, dying in a concentration camp.
Living as part of a tiny
Jewish community in overwhelmingly Anglo-Saxon Wellington can’t have been easy.
New Zealand in those days was suspicious of outsiders – more so than ever
during the war years, when someone with the name Schnellenberg was likely to be
viewed as an enemy alien. The irony that he was Jewish, and therefore had far more
to fear from the Nazis than anyone, would have been largely lost on insular New
Zealanders.
That was the reason Hans Wolf
Schnellenberg – his given name – became simply John, at the suggestion of a
sympathetic schoolteacher. Even his death notice referred to him as John W
Schnellenberg.
Paradoxically, John was an
admirer of German efficiency and technological excellence. For a long time he
drove an ageing Mercedes-Benz – replaced not long ago by a newer, sportier
model – and would regale me every Friday with accounts of how it was
performing. (Or not. It was what you might call a love-hate relationship.)
I’ve been trying to recall
what else we talked about. Politics, certainly. Books, films, television and
the media too. What I do know is that our conversation rarely flagged.
We didn’t always agree, and
sometimes there was a degree of heat in the conversation. For all his
geniality, John had firm views that didn’t always coincide with mine. He used
to needle me about the failings of the news media, but gave up a few years ago
when he realised I’d decided the news media were no longer worth defending. It
was no fun for him anymore.
He was an admirer of George W
Bush, and I wasn’t (neither was Joe). He predicted that Donald Trump would
become president, and irritated Joe and me by reminding us of it.
I think his political views
were shaped, at least to some extent, by his perception of where politicians
were likely to stand on the issue of Israel and the Middle East, which is
hardly surprising.
And now John’s gone. What am
I going to do on Fridays? I dunno. Perhaps Joe and I will go on meeting. He’s
an entertaining raconteur who has led a full and very interesting life. But our
lunches won’t be the same.